With just days to go before leaving for university for myself and many other people, the next few weeks are set to be some of the best, yet scariest, of our lives. As the feelings of being overwhelmingly nervous are the ones I’m feeling most at the moment, I decided to take some of the problems that I am worried may occur, and rationalize them with a bit of positive thinking in an attempt to calm my ever -growing nerves.
Problem: Meeting new people
The fear of meeting a whole new group of people is something I can’t remember experiencing since moving up to secondary school, and now it is in a new city, and without the comfort of home to retreat back to at the end of a long day. Meeting new people is always exciting, but worrying about what they may think of you can be a factor which holds me back from the enjoyment of many new friends and experiences.This is not even mentioning the fact that I’ll be living with flatmates in halls for the first year; what if we don’t get on and the entire year is super awkward?
Positive thought: Be yourself and join in
You can’t guarantee that everyone will like you, or that everyone you meet at university will be a life-long friend. However, being yourself will attract people who are similar to you and may lead to some great new friendships. There are many clubs and societies, from the most popular of hobbies to more niche interests, so, by being confident and joining the ones that suit your tastes, you are likely to have a great time with like-minded people. Equally, you already have something in common with your fellow students on your course, as you all have a mutual love for the subject, which is a great starting point. By chatting to people you sit with in lectures or those in your flat, you will be able to get to know people. Everyone is in the same boat, so just be yourself and be friendly and polite.
Problem: Freshers Week
Admittedly, this is the part that I am most dreading. As someone who is a very infrequent drinker, and doesn’t particularly enjoy clubbing, this week looks rather daunting. What will my flatmates say on Wednesday night when they are preparing for a night of drinking whilst I settle down for my Bake Off fix?
Positive thought: Do what you are comfortable with
There are lots of events throughout the week, including course workshops and sports events, campus tours of the area and Freshers Fairs, so there looks to be something for everyone to enjoy. Equally, don’t feel under pressure to drink to excess, or even to drink at all. You can still go to a club and order a soft drink, allowing for lots of dancing with your new pals, but no hangover in the morning. However, getting out of your comfort zone a bit won’t hurt as well – you may find a new hobby at the Freshers Fair that you may have never dreamed of doing, and you may be doubtful as to whether or not to go along and join in. Make sure that you don’t let any apprehension hold you back from some of the best experiences.
Problem: What if I fail my course?
Time seems to have flown by so quickly, and flicking through undergraduate prospectuses has now become panicked pre-course reading, and it all seems so overwhelming. What if I can’t cope with the work? Have I chosen the right degree for me? Am I ready for university life?
Positive thought: I will try my best and be organised
The fact that you got accepted into uni shows that you are most definitely capable of being there. Of course, the work may be challenging, but, by planning carefully and not getting stressed, I am sure it will be do-able. Writing down assignments and deadlines in a diary may be a good way to remind yourself to stay on track. Keeping on top of work and trying your very hardest with it is all that you can do, and it will be good enough. There will be surely be help available if you need it, so entering your course with a positive attitude and some self-belief is a good way to start proceedings.
Good luck to everyone embarking on this new adventure! Although it is big and daunting, it will also be an exciting time with some great times just waiting to be discovered.